tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-999765383645411418.post5756173552460820837..comments2023-10-17T11:01:10.805+01:00Comments on Loki's musings on first and second life: Growing PainsLoki Popinjayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00727054828144882274noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-999765383645411418.post-84496349500453539362013-03-19T21:37:20.323+00:002013-03-19T21:37:20.323+00:006v2bxvzuj
my web blog Payday loans Online6v2bxvzuj<br /><br />my web blog <a href="http://www.mypaydayloans-online.co.uk" rel="nofollow">Payday loans Online</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-999765383645411418.post-54991791834859032242011-03-14T06:26:44.419+00:002011-03-14T06:26:44.419+00:00I think Cindy hit the nail on the head for me. Th...I think Cindy hit the nail on the head for me. The issue is honesty. After finding out about my husband's affairs on SL, seeing the chat sessions with his friends telling him how to lie to me, the issue for me is the trust is gone.<br /><br />I guess if you are comfortable not having trust as the basis for your relationships it must work. For me, I need to be able to believe what my husband says for our marriage to work. SL affairs hurt the RL partners.<br /><br />SL seems to be as addictive as cocaine and there is a whole community of users who seem to have lost their moral compass and willingly tell each other to do things that are not in a gray area in RL.<br /><br />I can tell you that my husband looks better, acts happier, is more connected to our kids, to me and his business is going much better without the negative influence of his so called friends in SL.<br /><br />Interestingly enough, when I found out about his SL affairs he had multiple SL friends encouraging him to divorce me. All of our RL friends stood by, helped with the fragments of our life as we tried to piece together our injured marriage.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-999765383645411418.post-46454553358185331452008-04-19T11:36:00.000+01:002008-04-19T11:36:00.000+01:00Cindy, as I said I left out some grey. Part of it ...Cindy, as I said I left out some grey. Part of it is the fact contract s are supposed to be beneficial to the parties involved. In the case of a marriage it's obviously the emotional involvement the partners benefit from. So no, of course your marriage is not just a contractual obligation :-)<BR/><BR/>Lord knows I don't have the answers either but like you I do love pondering the questions and exploring why things are the way they are. I'm glad I can share that with you!Loki Popinjayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00727054828144882274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-999765383645411418.post-62883885771607124922008-04-18T22:22:00.000+01:002008-04-18T22:22:00.000+01:00Loki, my dear, I couldn't agree more with most of ...Loki, my dear, I couldn't agree more with most of what you have written. You have coalesced many of the points I've made on several past blog posts into one. Well done.<BR/><BR/>Although I don't have an issue with SL relationships personally, I can see why some folks find "cheating" in SL as detrimental as "cheating" in RL. It's about emotional honesty. My feathers would feel equally ruffled if I were to find my spouse cheating financially--as in making major purchases with our joint finances without my knowledge. <BR/><BR/>About the long-term romantic love issue: well now, that may be an entirly new post in itself. What a can of worms that one is. And while I agree in theory, it saddens me a bit to think that my marriage may be merely a contractual obligation. If that were the case then if something bad were to happen to my husband, I'd feel no real sadness or loss. And that's simply not true.<BR/><BR/>I don't claim to have the answers. But I love that we're asking the questions and talking about it. Too often do people react and act without sitting and exploring further why the world is the way it is.<BR/><BR/>Oh, and xoxoxoxoxoxoxox. There--some more to add to your growing collection. :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com